After a month-long hiatus I am happy to be back and blogging!
So what have I been up to for the past month of absence? My brother is on medical leave and undergoing a whole lot of check ups and tests and therapy. I have been playing the part of dutiful sister by accompanying him (with Dad as the designated driver) on his hospital visits to do ‘runner’ duties and dealing with the HMO paper works.
Visits to the hospital which, incidentally, is also my Alma Mater happens 2-3 times a week. So between that and my full time job in the evening and taking care of my family (Wolf and El Boaman) there was not much time for me to blog or do cooking projects.
The good news is that the whole thing is now winding down and I was even able to get out with friends last weekend (Yay for dinner and coffee date with friends!) and did a major cooking project: Vanilla Cupcakes with Butter-cream Frosting (posting soon). I am on a major baking mode as of late so next up is Fluffy Mamon (Sponge Cake) once I get my hands on some Cream of Tartar. 🙂
The other thing that got me sidetracked from blogging was prepping Wolfie for school this year. Preparations include reviewing him from the entrance exam that he totally passed with flying colors! Smart kid aced the Math exam (definitely didn’t get that from me) and just got one error on the English exam. He earned two new Hotwheels for that feat. I was so apprehensive because I wasn’t allowed in the testing room and I knew, I knew that he’s just gonna run around and play. Proctor was nice. She let him play with stuff while she asked the questions. Worked well for Wolf.
Enrollment was a bit easy but the paying part isn’t. :). Uniform, shoes, and books are ready. His trial classes start next Monday so his snacks for that week are now prepared. Regular classes will start on June 13.
The other things I had to prepare him for school is managing separation anxiety, potty training, and weaning him from the bottle.
Separation Anxiety. I am proud to say that even when I was working in an office away from home, Wolfie never had separation anxiety issues. I guess it was because of the way we did it, no drawn-out drama when I’m leaving for the office. No hiding or trying to sneak from him. Making sure to call him at least once during working hours to touch base with him and to always let him know that mom will come back at a specific time. Earlier this year, he attended a 30 minute trial class at his preschool and not once did he cry or look for us. He was just there, happily investigating his surroundings and interacting with the other kids so we had this one covered.
Potty Training and Bottle Weaning. These were a bit of a challenge. We started him out late because I cannot concentrate on training him while I was still working and working at odd hours at that. When I’m at the office my mom and dad minded him and I didn’t want to impose on them with things like this anymore. It’s gonna be up to me and El Boaman to teach him the rudimentary of answering the call of nature on his own and to let him know the joy of drinking his milk from a glass.
The first months we were met with a lot of resistance. Crying and whining are common occurrences if his diaper was removed or if we sat him down in the potty. It didn’t help that the grandparental units were totally spoiling him and giving in at the first hint of tears. So we were all frustrated and decided to stop for a bit and put the whole thing off for a few months.
We did mind conditioning: we showed him a nice picture book on potty training. When he started referring to himself as Kuya (Big Brother) to his cousin Jarrett, we told him that Kuyas don’t wear diaper anymore nor drink from the bottle and used his older cousins as an example. His dad and uncle brings him whenever they pee so they could show him how it’s done. I don’t ask.
I started by removing his diaper a few hours at a time and made him drink lots of liquid. There were times when we waited at the bathroom for about 15 minutes. I just let him play with the water and hang in there until one day finally he did pee on his own. Everybody was just patting the guy on the back. We were so proud of him! A few days later he pooped on the toilet on his own without even needing his potty trainer seat! Now he only wears diaper at night and when we’re out but if it’s just a short trip I don’t let him wear diaper anymore. It’s a work in progress but progress, nonetheless.
It helped that I talked to my mom and dad and ask for their cooperation. I told them that Wolfie will never learn if they coddle him. Accidents will happen while training and it’s nothing that cannot be cleaned up afterwards.
As for weaning him from the bottle, what my mom did was fed him insane amount of food every night so that he is too full to ask for a bottle before going to sleep. In the morning I prepare his milk on a glass and put straw on it which he enjoyed. I have now officially retired his feeding bottles!
The lesson here is not rushing your kid. He will do it and learn it once he is physically and emotionally ready. I have stopped pressuring myself by stopping from reading parenting books and articles that offer differing (and sometimes contradicting) advices on how to raise a child. When I accepted that following my maternal instinct is the best way to raise my child, I have become more relaxed and less pressured.
Happy parent, happy child. 🙂